~1-21-05~ I need your opinion
well now bob and i are fighting!
he calls me today and asks if i want to go to virginia. well, NO! so he gets mad.
before you all think i am a bitch again, let me explain.
i am not thinking of only myself. i am thinking of clay. i don't think we should lug him somewhere in a car for 8-10 hours for only a day and then 8-10 hours back! PLUS if you live in ohio or midwest, have you seen the weather coming our way?!?! ****Heavy snow expected tonight
Friday, January 21, 2005
We may get up to 10 inches of snow overnight and into Saturday if a storm tracks through our area as forecast. The National Weather Service has issued a winter storm watch for the area tonight through Saturday.
A major storm is bringing heavy snow to the Midwest. It will pass west to east through Ohio starting late tonight. If it takes a more southernly route, our snow will be less but still in the five-inch range.
Winds will increase Saturday afternoon, causing blowing and drifting snow. Driving will be hazardous.
Saturday's high will be 17, the low 5. Wind chills will be severe Saturday afternoon and night.****
does he really think it is wise to drive in that, with almost bald tires?!?! with our son in the car?!?!?!
HELL NO!!!!
now if it were just bob and i, hell we would have probably already been down there. i have no problem with that. i just don't feel it is necessary to put clay through that....OHHH not to mention that he needs to sleep in a crib, you know all the sleep issues i have had lately!!!! not to mention again that WE HAVE NO MONEY!
i am not trying to seem rude or uncaring. if it were a member of his family that he was actually close to i could see. he hasn't seen or talked to his aunt since his grandmother died in 2000. and before that he probably hasn't seen or talked to her in over 10 years. i know it is family. i understand that. and if he wants to be there for his mother i understand that too. i have no problem with that. if he wants to go that is fine, even if he takes off work, i understand, i have no gripes about that. i just don't think we need to take clay.
he tells me, "sometimes you have to just do things" well I get that!!!!! i just don't think it is fair to put clay into it.
maybe i am wrong, i don't know. so what do you all think????
1 Comments:
Without knowing exactly what words or tone were used in this conversation, I'd say that you should lovingly explain to your husband that if the weather were a little less dangerous to drive in, that you would have no problem with joining him in Virginia to convey your condolences to the family. But since that is not the case, you will be supportive with his understandable need to go ahead without you and your son. Be sure to reassure him that you are very sad about the situation and that you agree with his sense of obligation while he and his family grieve (remind him to be careful of the tires and the weather). Don't mention the long drive or how stressful it may or may not be for Clay (because if the weather were better, then yes, you suck it up and get your butt down there because it is family and that's what you're supposed to do). Kids can handle a lot more than you think they can, trust me on this one. Now if you are making excuses because YOU don't want to go, then that is a different story. The tone and words you choose are VERY important.
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